The Neverending Story
This is my favorite book and movie of all time. I am often asked why, and I think this is the best way to describe it. Its about stories, and how they are important to us and who we are. Its about grief and loss. Its about not giving up on hopes and dreams, and being true to yourself.
These are the key themes of adoption, and being an adoptee.
The main character Bastian is told to change, and stop grieving. We all know, grief is not something that we can just leave in a box in the ground. And that part of the process of loss is learning to deal with emotions. Adoptees are told to conform to their adopted households, rituals, interests, and often times not encouraged to be who they really are.
That is why reading stories were important to him, they gave him the ability to be somewhere else and enjoy the things he liked.
But his story was also being told during his adventures in Fantasia. He was in them, with them, and ultimately they knew him and his pain. Adoptees search a lifetime for that feeling: belonging. A place where we are encouraged to find out who we really are, people that allow us to be who we want to be, and most importantly people who believe in us.
Sometimes all it takes is one person to be the light in the darkness. Finding a luck dragon in human form might take years and years for some, but we are out there and ready to help.